Empedocles said that Strife also divided the one immortal soul of Love into many individual souls, each comprising both Love and Strife in some proportion; these immortal souls are reborn time and again into mortal bodies, which are animated by mortal souls compounded from the four elements.
In this day now we have come from the apex of the Reign of Aphrodite to the nadir of the Reign of Ares. We have come from the solidarity of the tribe to the strife of group against group and individual against individual. For Neikos is the attraction of like for like, which separates the four elements and divides people from those unlike them; Ares works through jingoism, racism, bigotry and selfishness.
Aphrodite was called Pandemos - the Goddess of All People - for, like Philotes, She draws together everything, both like and unlike, into One. To return to the Reign of Aphrodite we must invite Philotes into our lives, for Aphrodite does not demand that we be passionate, sexual lovers of everyone else; it is sufficient that we be united by Philotes, whose name means Affection and Friendship as well as Love. She comes when Strife is banished, and whenever we dissolve the divisions between us, we take a step back to the "well- rounded sphere permeated by Philotes," which was the cosmos of the golden age. This is based on Empedocles' Hymn to Her:
Philotes, Thou whose arms surround the world,The following "Exercise toward Unity" is one step in this direction.
embracing all together, joined as one,
we contemplate Thee, who cannot be seen,
and feel Thee dwelling in our mortal limbs.
We call Thee Friend, for Harmony's Thy gift,
and Joy Thou'rt named, and Aphrodite too.
When people gather, You arrive unseen;
in lofty clouds You circle like a dove,
and draw us close in bonds of common Love.
Hail, fair Goddess! Khaire!
(1) In Admiration, each partner admires the other as embodied
divinity and each accepts the admiration of the other as that
befitting a divinity. Every characteristic of the other is seen as
a manifestation of this divinity, and therefore worthy of praise.
This is a kind of meditation, in which the goal is for your
awareness to zoom in and focus on the partner in the here-and-now;
your partner should fill your consciousness, so that it begins to
merge with the divine other. Allow your heart open to your partner
and feel the boundaries begin to dissolve.
In this first activity the partners connect primarily through their
eyes and the sense of sight, secondarily through the sense of smell.
(2) In Praise each partner compliments the other, and the hearer
strives to accept the praise as the adoration that a devotee owes a
divinity. This is not a time for lies, but for honest admiration of
the other, for whatever their appearance may be, they are embodied
divinity and therefore praise-worthy; giver and receiver should each
accept it in this way.
The partners connect through the sense of hearing.
(3) In Touch each partner treats the other as a divinity to whom
they owe the pleasure of touch, and by whom they expect to be
blessed by touch. They may touch each other in whatever ways are
acceptable to them both; caressing, hugging, kissing and licking are
typical. Partners may feed each other fruit, candy etc. Sexual
contact is fine, if mutually agreeable, but the limited time during
which partners are paired (5-10 min.) will preclude serious sex.
The attitude of each to the other is as a devotee to a God/dess;
each strives to honor and expects to be honored.
In this activity the partners connect through the senses of touch
and taste.
The three activities together allow the partners to relate through
all five senses. (The activities correspond loosely to the second
and third sacraments of the
Liturgia Philotetos; the first sacrament
is also included if each participant engages in self-admiration,
(silent) self-praise and self-touch - essentially honoring their
own divinity.)
At the end of a pair's time together, they salute each other with
some words such as "Thou are God/dess." After all pairs have
connected, the Goddess is thanked and the circle is opened.
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